“THEY SAY”…..WHO ARE “THEY”?

 

Don’t know about you but I have NEVER met “THEY” that everybody is talking about.

I wouldn’t recognise “him or her” even if they are standing in front of me. Let me explain. Woman will come into the boutique, either because they were told about BIATCHES or they are back as they were happy with their purchases in the past. Sometimes they are “just looking” while waiting for their food or they are just popping in to talk.

Their eyes always wondering around like Hugh Hefner’s (from Playboy Mansion) eyes around a bunch of big busted blonds. Their hands will always reach out to touch the clothing hanging on the rails and you can clearly “see” that they are thinking of “THEY”.

At BIATCHES we will acknowledge you when you come into the shop for the first time, giving you time to look around by yourself and we will ask you to indicate to us should you need assistance. On the second visit we will offer coffee and after the third visit we will hug you. So, you see it is normally at the first visit that “THEY” get introduced to us. At the first meeting we start guiding customers towards what we think would suit their specific hair and skin tone and more importantly their body types.

After all, we do have a trained eye and track record to do so, but try and tell that to “THEY”.

This is how the conversation will go once you have suggested a specific clothing item…….”OH NO, I can’t wear that dress”; “THEY” say that at my age I can’t show my arms”.

I must admit in the beginning the reference to “THEY” went over my head. I thought that they, the customer referred to a husband or maybe a sister or friend.

Well, after three months of having most of the customers referring to “THEY” and I have still not met “THEY” and surely they (the customers) can’t expect me to know all these people or the “THEY’s” in their lives.

 “THEY” are telling the customers that they are to fat for a certain outfit. “THEY” are telling the customers that your dress should be a specific length when you get to a specific age. “THEY” are forcing them to cut their hair when they get to a certain dreaded age.

I am not picking on anybody specific, but the worst are an Afrikaans mother and daughter team. The daughter will always remind Mom about “THEY” and that she can’t wear leggings. They normally speak with such “authority” that we are almost convinced.

Eventually I just couldn’t control myself; I had to know who this “THEY” are. I asked a lovely woman with an immaculately face and an understated French manicure. She said that she would love to wear one of our new lace corsets in lavender, seeing that it would have complimented her bright blue eyes but, “THEY” say that you can’t wear a corset as it is actually underwear.

I asked her who “THEY” are. She looked at me in shock as if I was from another planet or maybe I was in a deep sleep for the last three decades. When she realised that I really didn’t know who “THEY” were she was even more bewildered as she didn’t have an answer for me.

She also never met “THEY”. It is just a figment of her imagination, something she read, or her mother or her jealous husband said so, but yes come to think of it, she also has never met “THEY”.

BIATCHES, think rationally about it. Most women have issues with their own bodies, worrying about wobbly arms, dimpled thighs or fat tummies. Actually BIATCHES, its brail on your legs, rub your fingers over them and you will “read”, “you are unique and beautiful”. Only you will be able to “read” this message as it is your own brail and every woman has a different message “hidden in her legs”. Stop putting yourself down, other woman don’t have the time to concentrate on your issues. While you are thinking about your insecurities, they are doing the same. Stop thinking about your “not so perfect parts” as other people don’t think you are so important that they will waste lots of time scrutinizing your body.

Instead, rather think of all the beautiful parts you do have, like maybe stunning eyes, firm bum, naturally big boobs or a lovely smile and draw attention to that and away from the parts that are worrying you. Get more confidence by wearing something that flatters your body, wear a shoe with a heel, not only does it elongates your calf but it also lifts your bum which in turn gives you confidence. Wear shoes with heels, the highest you can manage. Don’t tell me that “THEY” say you can’t!

XOX Vivienne